Illness

A topic we discussed in class was about illnesses. It was said that when you have an illness that causes treatment you look at your body different. Now I can not really say yes that is true or no that isn’t, but I feel like if I did have a disease I would try my hardest not to let it effect my life and who am I. You were the same person before the disease so why can’t you find it in you to be the same without? Both set of my grandparents (from my mom’s side and from my dads) have diabetes, and my grandma on my dads side says she still feels the same, she just knows that she has to give herself a shot and watch what she eats! I think there are still ways to do things the way you use to do it before you got your illness. I mean there are people in wheelchairs that will never be able to walk again, but they don’t let that stop them from going out and playing sports. In middle school I was on the basketball team, and for a rec. thing we played basketball in wheelchairs against kids that really had to be in wheelchairs. They were so excited to play and they were really fast to. They were also really good. So I don’t think an illness should keep you from feeling like yourself, its just another obstacle that your facing in life.

So in class today the question of can intimacy be without touching? For older people are younger people. For me the answer is NO! Intimacy, especially in our culture is a big part of relationships. For example sex is a big intimacy trigger. People have sex for the pleasure yes, but it also makes one feel closer to their partner. Even if you wait along to have sex there are still ways of being intimate. For example kissing, holding hands, cuddling and all ways to show that you’re intimate with one another. If I had that boyfriend that wouldn’t like holding hands with me or kissing me I would feel no real connection to them. Yeah there is more than just kissing to a relationship, but that is one of the ways to feel closer to your boyfriend. Also with having sex (when you’re younger and maybe some older people) it is an exciting creative way to show intimacy toward that person. Now some older people don’t have sex, but they show they are intimate with one another just by a kiss. I feel like for them they have already done that young wild life already, so now they show their love in different ways.

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In class we talked about going to the extreme of othering (judging) someone and it coming back to you that you may have in yourself. I necessarily do not really believe that. If I end up judging someone it is because what they are doing I can not stand, and If I can not stand it than why would I do it myself. For example if I am talking to a friend and she is not looking at me when I talk and then I ask her if she is listening and she says yes that really gets to me. So to get her back I may do the same thing to her if she is telling me something that is important I will do something else like txt on my phone or something just so she sees it does get annoying when you’re trying to tell someone something and it feels like they are not listening. But I do not see that kind of quality in myself.  There is only one example I see that concept agreeing with.  I really do not like fake people, although I do not consider myself a fake girl, in High School I sum what lived up to the standards. What I mean is that sometimes there were things in High School everyone wanted to do and I didn’t I still did them and didn’t speak up just because that was what everyone wanted to do.